Sunday, June 30, 2013

The Total Man Prayer



Happy Total Man’s Day!  This is your day and you deserve it.  I want to pray for you and after you read this prayer over yourself, then pray it for another man who you know needs prayer today!




Lord, Please Bless This Total Man:


I know that before You created me (him), I (he) was a good thought in Your mind! Lord, I know that You don’t make any mistakes, but rather You make greatness. Father enlarge the territory of my (his) mind today, so that I (he) may grasp the level, depth, and height of Your love. Father, I (he) need(s) You right now to come into my (his) life, heart, home, marriage, family, relationships, job, church, community, and school and restore that which has been lost. Heal that situation of hurt, and fix and mend those things that have been broken.
God, give me (him) vision today that I (he) may realize that You love me (him) in spite of everything that I (he) have (has) done wrong.  Father, You know that I (he) need(s) a special touch, miracle, and healing from You. Lord, provide it today. Lord, let Your power overshadow me (him), let the anointing crown me (him) from the top of my (his) head to the soles of my (his) feet.  Lord, take the fear away that I (he) have (has) been experiencing and let me (him) have sweet peace and communion with You.
Lord, comfort me (him) in my (his) time of sorrow, doubt, unbelief, frustration, anger, and restlessness. Lord, You are the peace that surpasses all understanding, so make a way in my (his) life where there seems to be no way. Lord, help me (him) not to give up, not to give in, but to give it to Jesus.
Lord, You are the Author and Finisher of my (his) faith today. Lord, put Your desires in my (his) heart and help me (him) to surrender my (his) will to You, so that Your perfect will may be done in my (his) life, in Jesus’ Name.  Lord, may I (he) let go and let You have Your way in my (his) life today. Father, hold me (him) in the bosom of Your care and watch over my (his) household both day and night, so that no evil will come upon me (him). Finally, Lord, multiply the blessings that You have in store for me (him) in the mighty name of Jesus - Amen!

Final Thoughts: Min. Jared Honeyman



            It’s amazing how far we have come during this month of June. I can’t believe it has come to a beginning. Notice how I stated that? Yes, a beginning. It’s never an end. When God starts something, it becomes eternal because He is an eternal God.

So, this is not the end, but the beginning, and if ever during the next few weeks/months/years you think you need more, go back and start this Total Man Series back over. Print them off and use them as your daily study for the next year.  If you take a look at the Bible, you’ll notice that Genesis is Revelation backwards.

In Genesis 1:1-2:4, we see the creation of Heaven and Earth. In Revelation 21:1-5, we see the creation of the New Heaven and New Earth. In Genesis 2:4-17, we see the Eden Sanctuary, the river flowed out of Eden, and the Tree of Life, and then in Revelation 21:9-22:2, we see the Sanctuary of the New Jerusalem, the river that flowed from the New Jerusalem, and the Tree of Life, and so on and so forth.

Eventually we get to the end: Genesis 3:15 where the Redeemer is promised and Revelation 20:1-6, 21:22-27, & 22:3-5 where the victorious Redeemer reigns. I present all of this to tell you that even in scripture the end is reflected in the beginning and vice- versa. You are never to stop your worship, your study, and your purpose driven life. When you think you have come to a dead end, start back from the beginning and you will find your way. God has always placed clues to provide you with direction in life. All He asks from you is to take a moment to look deeper because in the stillness He is there.

            I would like to take the rest of this time to thank all of the people that made this possible. My Mother Tashara, you are a blessing in my life and I thank you for the opportunity for even thinking of me to be a part of this awesome move of God. I honor you as a Spiritual parent in my life.

To my best friend and mentor Min. Eugene Blakely, you have taught me so much and I thank God that you decided those many years ago to become my friend. It is because of your obedience to the voice of God that I am here today complete and whole.

To all of my other friends and brothers in Christ, Brandon Trail, Johann Lilly, John Barrios, Kent Berame, and so many more, thank you all for believing in me.

To God my Father, Jesus my Christ, and The Holy Spirit my guide, you know my heart and the depth of thankfulness I have for you, if it weren’t for you I would have no purpose in this life and no reason to live.

And to all of you that have followed and read every word written in these last 30- days, bless you and everything you touch, and thank you from the bottom of my heart.

To men everywhere now is the time to change the world of men for men. It’s our time, and it’s our turn. God is waiting on you!

Final Thoughts: Evang. Tashara Luster


Final Thoughts: As we come to the end of this amazing blog series, The Total Man, I just want to leave you (the great men of the world), with some final words of wisdom and encouragement. Although, I am a woman, my heart bleeds for the men of today. I am a champion for strong men to rise again, for godly men to take their rightful position, and for hurt men to heal from their exit wounds. I am praying for you and I love each one of you in the Lord as my brothers-in-Christ.
I pray this blog has blessed and encouraged you in ways that are unimaginable. This blog was birth from the book, The Total Man: Exit Wounds that I wrote a few years back, I am working on getting it released so that all that God has given me, I can give you in print form. So that every man can start a revolution and become a Total Man.
I want to thank my co-writer & spiritual son, Min. Jared Honeyman for his hard work and tireless efforts to seeing this blog through for the past 30-days. Jared, you are a gift from God to the World and I am blessed to be a part of your life. You are a Total Man!
Living Life From the Inside Out
God never has to recreate you; He just repositions you and reinvents you throughout the course of your life. God never has to put you to sleep in order to deposit something new in you for you to accomplish your life’s destiny. All God has to do is orchestrate your life’s path in order for you to meet key people in your life to unlock destiny’s doors. He presents great times of favor in order to get you the opportunities that will catapult you into greatness. When you are living life from the inside out, you know it is not you that is doing it, but the power that is working inside of you, both to will and to do. Just like in the natural, all a man needs is seed in order to produce life.
Right now in your life, you just need spiritual seed in order to birth out your destiny, dreams, and dominion. You are already on your way, because all you need is already down on the inside of you. When you are living life from the inside out, then it is solely your life. No one Size Fits All…What works for one will not work for all. Another man’s inside out life is not your inside out life. Your inside out life is not his inside out life. This is one time when you can’t share or swap. God has a unique plan for you.
All Men are on the quest and search for more: more meaning, more time, more purpose, and more understanding of this great thing called Life!  The first place to start is with the question, Who is God to me?  It is only when you have defined who God is to you and who you are in relation to God, that you can even begin to search for more and become significant. You don’t choose your purpose-- it is already predestined-- but you do choose to say Yes!  Your full commitment and a real yes is all that stands in the way of the search for your significance.
Go Deeper
“And when the man went out to the east with the line in his hand, he measured one thousand cubits, and he brought me through the waters; the water came up to my ankles. 4Again he measured one thousand and brought me through the waters; the water came up to my knees. Again he measured one thousand and brought me through; the water came up to my waist. 5Again he measured one thousand, and it was a river that I could not cross; for the water was too deep, water in which one must swim, a river that could not be crossed” (Ezekiel 47: 3-5).
As I close this blog series, which I hope has been a providential place of discovery for you; I want to leave you with the words Go Deeper!  Go past your limitations; go deep into the place that is calling you out of the pit, out of the despair, and out of anything keeping you from being a Total Man.  If you go deeper, then the very things that you think are chasing you and the things standing in your way will disappear.  They are only there to keep you from going deeper.  If you finally go deeper, then you will escape them all and become a Total Man.
You cannot unleash the possibilities within if you remain in a place that only covers you at Ankle level.  This is the basic place, the base line.  The ankle place is where you start, not where you end.  Go Deeper!  The Knee place is deeper, but there is still more inside of you; this place does not completely cover you either.  At this point, your steps and even parts of you are covered.  However, remember, you want to be A Total Man now, no more shortcuts and living half-full.  Go Deeper!
Do not even allow being almost covered and almost there to be enough for you. Go Deeper!  To stop at Waist level is like putting half a tank of gas in your car for a road trip that will take a full tank of gas. You cannot do just the bare minimum when your dreams and destination call for you to walk in fullness.  This is the time when most of men would be scared and even a little uneasy about going forward.  Release the comfortable and the complacency off your life and Go Deeper.
Finally, in going deeper, there will seem to be a breaking of a threshold, but that is only the last barrier keeping you from becoming A Total Man, who is able to Unleash the Possibilities Within and Live Life from the Inside Out.  It is only when you stop trying to walk the whole way and finally swim, that you will let go of every inhibition that is holding you back from the Life you have been dying to live. 
Swim vs. Walk: When you swim, you are immersed or steeped in the overflow.
“When He had stopped speaking, He said to Simon, “Launch out into the deep and let down your nets for a catch.” 5But Simon answered and said to Him, “Master, we have toiled all night and caught nothing; nevertheless at Your word I will let down the net.” 6And when they had done this, they caught a great number of fish, and their net was breaking” (Luke 5:4-6).
Launch out into the deep! It is at the word of God that He is calling for you to Launch out and to Go Deeper. No matter how long it has been, how bad it has been, or even how tired you are, you must Launch Out into the Deep. The difference between you and the Total You is Going Deeper! I salute you Total Man, from this day forward; this is your new name, your new signature, and your new life. Go Deeper to the Total Place! You have now Unleashed the Possibilities within and You are now Living Life From the Inside Out of Your Exit Wounds!
Living Life from the Inside Out (Deeper) is Living Inside of God!”


Saturday, June 29, 2013

The Total Man: Life Under Construction (Evang. Luster & Min. Honeyman)

Wrong Rooms

Wrong Turns

Wow, look how far we’ve come in this Total Man Blog Series. Today, I want to bring you a creative idea of what our lives might look like. I wrote this down many months ago, but I believe it is appropriate for here and now. As we are coming to the end of this month, I pray and hope you are beginning to see God really move in your life as you allow Him to bring change inside of you. Speaking of inside of you, I am going to use the description/metaphor of a room similar to one you already have in your house as a representation of our lives.




            Inside of each of us is a room; this room is a representation of our soul. For those of you that may not know, I describe the soul as the place where your mind (thoughts), your will, and your emotions are. I have a friend that describes the soul as the trunk of a car. When it comes time to sell that car, you may find a bunch of stuff in that trunk that you had forgotten was there. The same is true for a bedroom, especially when you haven’t cleaned it in a while. So lets take a look into your bedroom.

            For those of you that haven’t cleaned their room in a while, if I were to walk into your room what would I see? Would I see porn on your walls? Would I see a dark room filled with fear and depression? Would I see pictures of the past everywhere? Would I see a little boy crying in the corner over the pain of his or her past? Or would I see hope? Would I feel joy? Would I see pictures of your future on you walls? Would I see a person confident in whom they are and in whom they were created to be? Would I see a person studying the Word of God, living and thriving in His presence?


            For those of you that don’t know, it’s either one or the other. And by now I hope you have begun cleaning off your walls, picking up your addictions and throwing them out. Changing your atmosphere and creating a space that God can live, move, and breathe life into. This is your chance to get your life straight, no matter how tough it looks right now you can turn things around. God has your back when you make the right decision.


Recovering From A Wrong Turn


Maybe your “Room” looks like a Wrong Turn… Maybe you are going Wrong on Right Street.


The U-Turn: Where I live, you pretty much have to make a U-turn in order to get to where you are going in the city.  When I first moved here, I had to use my GPS to help me locate places. The voice on the GPS would always say, “Make the next legal U-turn, then the destination on the right.”  Many of you feel like your life has been a series of wrong turns.  The key to coming out of a wrong turn when you are living life from the inside out is to know that there is a U-turn down on the inside of you.  You can turn around at any given moment and find your destination on the right.  The Department of Transportation could have called turning around anything, but chose to call it a U-Turn.

This is the Paramount Question: “Where Are You?”


Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?” So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” And He said, “Who told you that you were naked?” (Genesis 3:9-11).


When I would make a wrong turn and go the opposite direction of what the GPS told me, the voice on the other end would say, “Recalculating Route.”  The GPS would have to find my location and then recalculate the route in order to get me where I needed to go.  Discover where you are in life, because it is now time to Recalculate the Route.  God is teaching you how to recover from failure and face rejection in order to keep moving.  You have to come unstuck. 


Adam’s wrong turn caused him to do two things, be afraid and hide himself.  When you do something wrong or make bad decisions, it is not the end of the world.  However, what can destroy you from living life from the inside out is being afraid, feeling ashamed, and hiding yourself, which is literally disappearing and not showing up in your own life.  So, where are you?  Are you turning around and doing a U-turn? Moreover, are you afraid and hiding?  It is time to Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are!


A Roadside Rescue

“Now they came to Jericho. As He went out of Jericho with His disciples and a great multitude, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaeus, sat by the road begging. 47And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out and say, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” 48 Then many warned him to be quiet; but he cried out all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” 49So Jesus stood still and commanded him to be called. Then they called the blind man, saying to him, “Be of good cheer. Rise, He is calling you.” 50And throwing aside his garment, he rose and came to Jesus. 51So Jesus answered and said to him, “What do you want Me to do for you?” The blind man said to Him, “Rabboni, that I may receive my sight.”
52Then Jesus said to him, “Go your way; your faith has made you well.” And immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus on the road”
(Mark 10:46-52).


God will come when you need a Roadside Rescue, no matter when or where.  He is the only GPS that can recalculate your route, and heal and deliver you from everything that is causing you to be stuck.  Like blind Bartimaeus, even when others tell you to stay quiet and stay stuck, cry even louder, “God, here I am! Over Here!”  Do not get quiet or passive about needing a Roadside Rescue.  God is going to give you your sight back (your direction); you are making a U-turn and getting back on the road called Purpose.  God is also restoring back your passion.  There are some things you must leave behind and quit, so you can move forward.  However, it is not failure when you let go of the very things trying to keep you stuck.

“Quitting is not failure, if you Quit the 'Wrong Things' in Your Life!"

Friday, June 28, 2013

The Total Man: Legacy & Winning At Your Own Life



You did not have a choice in how you came into the world, but you ultimately decide how you will live in essence of your Legacy!  The Total Picture is the Life you will Live from the Inside Out, which refers to your Legacy.  What you Leave behind is just as important as what you live!  In order to leave a great legacy, one must live a great life.  Not a great life in essence of worldly success based on a monetary level, but rather the greatness of the impact of your life on others.

It is only when something has impacted something else that there is change.  The word impact is defined as a forceful contact, a collision, and an influence.  Legacy only comes forth when a great impact of contact and influence is made.  The first place to make an impact is in your own life.  When you impact you, then you win at your own life!  When you impact someone else’s life then, you win at making a legacy!

The Treasure Within… You are a Gift and Don’t Forget It!  You win at your own life when you discover the treasure within.  When treasure seekers go to discover treasures, they go deep within to uncover the treasure, whether the treasure is in the sea, in a mountain, or in a cave.  They know that it is the depth of something which holds the true value and treasure.  It is time for you to go deep inside of yourself and this time, do not come up empty-handed.  It is time for you to uncover the treasure within.  Treasure is value or worth that is accumulated or stored.  It is time to Unleash the treasure.

“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us. 8We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; 9persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed” (2 Corinthians 4:7-9).

Like life, uncovering the treasure within is not easy, but it is worth it.  You win at your own life when you are hard-pressed on every side, yet not able to be crushed.  When something is crushed it is brought down, and it is diminished.  Winning at life happens even when you feel perplexed, but you refuse to be in despair. 

A winning attitude overshadows the emotions of feeling helpless.  You achieve victory in your own life when you are standing alone and are being persecuted, but remember because you are living life from the inside out in God, you are not forsaken.  The world can be against you, but if God is for you, then He is all you need.  Finally, winning at your own life may make you feel struck down and some things in life might knock you down, but you are not destroyed and the enemy is defeated.

Do not succeed at the wrong thing; the greatest tragedy in life is to win at the wrong thing, because in actuality you have lost.


True destiny and purpose outlive death, because they bring forth a Legacy.


Questions that Winners Ask: If you really want to win in your life, then you have to ask the hard questions.


(1) What are you sitting on, that you need to stand up for in life?

(2) Really define what God is asking you to do? What is it?

At this stage of life, you are not waiting on God, but God is waiting on you.  You have given Him and everyone else the excuses as to why you have not begun the race to win at your own life.  Do more with what you have and where you are now.  It all starts with where you are in this season, not where you think you should be!  Legacy is more than what you leave behind, but rather how you live now. Legacy is now, & not only later. Live Life and Leave a Legacy.


“Your Life and Mission Should Outlive You!”


When you Win At Your Own Life, You Win At Leaving A Great Legacy!

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

The Total Man: Evang. Tashara Luster & Minister Jared Honeyman

The Willingness to Obey

            The most wonderful thing happened to me the other day, I was having a conversation with a neighbor and he told me something that completely changed me and I doubt he even realized it. It’s amazing that God can speak to you through anybody, literally. We were talking about obedience, and how important it is to be obedient. I made the comment that obedience is the key to your relationship with God and my friend said no, it is the willingness to obey that is the key to your relationship with God. I could stop right there and be done with the blog for the day as you sit there and marinate on that.

             To be willing means to be ready, eager, or prepared to do something. If you look deeper, it also means the faculty by which a person decides on and initiates action. Is it possible to be obedient without being willing to? Yes it is, in fact the definition of obedience is compliance with someone’s wishes or orders or acknowledgement of their authority. We all know that we can submit to a law or a rule without a willingness to do so. And it is because of that unwillingness that we either do what we do for the wrong reasons, or that we don’t do them at all.

Men Behaving Badly

You will never be able to walk in God’s will if you are walking or running in the wrong direction.

“What you are Running From is Exactly what you are about to Run back into”

The Word, The Run, The Storm, The Whale, and then the Word Again:

The Word:“Now the word of the Lord came to Jonah the son of Amittai, saying, 2“Arise, go to Nineveh, that great city, and cry out against it; for their wickedness has come up before Me” (Jonah1:1-2)

The Run: “But Jonah arose to flee to Tarshish from the presence of the Lord. He went down to Joppa, and found a ship going to Tarshish; so he paid the fare, and went down into it, to go with them to Tarshish from the presence of the Lord” (Jonah 1:3).

The Storm: “But the Lord sent out a great wind on the sea, and there was a mighty tempest on the sea, so that the ship was about to be broken up” (Jonah1:4).

The Whale: “Now the Lord had prepared a great fish to swallow Jonah. And Jonah was in the belly of the fish three days and three nights” (Jonah1:17).

The Word Again: “Now the word of the Lord came to Jonah the second time, saying, 2“Arise, go to Nineveh, that great city, and preach to it the message that I tell you.” 3So Jonah arose and went to Nineveh, according to the word of the Lord” (Jonah 3:1-3).

You can’t out run it or have a tantrum, you just have to behave and obey! Jonah a great prophet had a secret; he had bad behavior issues and the adult tantrum syndrome. The syndrome of I know what you said God, but that is not what I want to do. One thing to remember is that you can be anointed, but still have bad behavior. Jonah was a prophet with bad behavior. So it is not enough just to be anointed, but your obedience determines your behavior. His behavior was so bad it almost cost him his life and everyone else that was around him.

In verse 2, the Lord told Jonah to arise and go, but he decided to arise and flee. In verse 3, we get an inside look at the internal behavior of Jonah.  He was disobedient, scared, and not in line with the will or the word of God.  Because his internal behavior was messed up, his external behavior reflected this and it was messed up too.  The Outer Game vs. the Inner Game: it is not what goes in a man that defiles him, but what comes out of him (Mark 7:20).  If you do not have it together on the inside, then you will not have it together on the outside.

Jonah fled to a city outside of where God told him to go, and by doing so, he left the presence of God.  Therefore, if he was not in the presence of God, then he was not in a place of peace.  If there is no peace, then there is chaos.  The storm of chaos hit the life of Jonah along with everyone around him.  Not only did Jonah board the boat, but the Bible also says that he went down into it.  He was trying to get to the lowest part of the boat to hide from God.  Hide-And-Seek is not a game that God plays, but if you decide to play, know that God always wins! He is Omniscient and Omnipresent.

Since Jonah did not want to acknowledge God and tried to hide from Him, God sent a storm to wake him up.  God can often remind you of His presence, power, and position in your life through a storm.  The storm was so powerful that all the other men on the boat knew it was from God and that it had been caused because of someone on the boat.  In order not to sink, they threw their possessions overboard to lighten the load.  They drew lots in order to determine who it was that had caused this calamity, and the lot fell on Jonah. 

God will expose your bad behavior when you are knowingly taking others down with you. The Cover-up is Worse than the Crime! Jonah almost got everyone on the boat killed because of his disobedience. When you have bad behavior, you are a threat to everyone around you.  What behavior is in your life that has provoked you to flee the presence of God, and caused a storm to arise that will hurt innocent people around you?  What are you covering up that needs to be revealed and exposed?  The cover-up is worse than the crime when you don’t seek change and forgiveness.
When the lot fell on Jonah, the men threw him overboard in order to save themselves. God had prepared a whale to swallow Jonah up.  The whale represented a place of isolation.  Many leading psychologists have acknowledged that the worst cruelty or punishment is isolation or solitary confinement.  Every human being needs to belong, to feel needed, and to have contact with others.  However, when it is a God-ordained isolation, it works for your good. 

Jonah got his life and his worship back on track because of the isolation.  For you see, it was not real isolation because God was there. It was isolation from the outside world, yes, but not from God’s presence.  The entire second chapter details the three-day ordeal of Jonah’s cries from a place of confinement.  These cries were not from a man with bad behavior or someone struggling with adult tantrums, but rather a redeemed man with a renewed appreciation for God.

Finally, Jonah was released from the belly of the whale onto dry land.  God came with the word again to Jonah, and this time he made haste to do what the Lord said.  God even redeemed the time on Jonah’s behalf.  The distance from where he was to Nineveh was a three-day journey, but Jonah made it in one day under the anointing of God. 

Thank God for being a God of another chance and a redeemer of the times.  Like Jonah, you can’t outrun the will of God.  If you are running from God, then turn around and run back to Him. He is waiting on you.  Bad behavior can also be something that you are not doing.  Omitting what should be done is just as bad as doing something you should not be doing.  Do not play the regret game; make the right choice the first time and let your behavior be the evidence.

            Jonah was given an assignment, but he was unwilling to complete it.  Jonah was unwilling to go to Nineveh because he didn’t’ believe that they deserved to be saved. It was this unwillingness that caused Jonah much trouble as he resisted and fled from what God called him to do. Your unwillingness to do what God has called you to do will cause much pain not only to you, but to those around you. Nevertheless, God will have His way whether you have a desire to or not. 

          But think about this, What if Jonah had a willing heart to obey God and to see Nineveh through the eyes of God? Had Jonah been willing to go to Nineveh, then that whole story would have had a completely different ending. If you don’t know the end of the story, after God saved everyone in Nineveh, Jonah went up to a hill disappointed about what God had done. It was there that he suffered because he was unable to become willing to be obedient to God.

            So how do we become willing? Willingness has to be combined with humility. When you are an obedient person and have a servant’s heart, you can still live without a willingness to obey. Simple obedience requires you to do the bare minimum. This applies to all areas of your life whether it be your job or your relationships. A willing heart will do more than what is required of him because his desire is not just to get by, but to provide the ultimate honor of living a life for a greater purpose than his own desires. When you are willing, you are eager to honor God with all that you can.

“I dare you to be willing to do more than what is required of you”

            Moses was willing to leave everything he knew in order to find his true purpose in life. He was willing to cross a desert with no idea of how he would make it through. He was willing to go and face a generation with a stuttering problem and be God’s voice to them. David was willing to stand in front of Goliath even though he knew not a soul believed he would live through it. Daniel was willing to go into the lion’s den to serve God openly. Jesus was willing to go to the cross to save us and tear the veil between us and the Father.

It is time for real Obedience, not half-hearted, partial, or delayed obedience. At this point in life, God desires and expects your obedience no matter what it may cost you. He wants a Yes!  Even Jesus had to say to the Father, “Not my will, but Thy will be done.” You will not know what God wants or requires until you spend adequate time with God and seek out His will.  It is only when you surrender your will that you can pick up and discern the will of God. 


Monday, June 24, 2013

The Total Man: Minister Jared Honeyman

A Man’s Trust, Finances, & His Work

“Jesus overheard what they were talking about and said to the leader, ‘Don’t listen to them; just trust me.’” – Mark 5:36

            Today, I would like to talk about a topic we as men really struggle with. The topic is "finances and trust,” and I named it this because I want men to understand that when it comes to finances, there is always going to be a road called trust and faith, but I want you to know today that you don’t have to listen to that negative talk of others when you hit low places in your finances. 

            Now when I say I am going to talk about finances, I don’t mean I am going to talk about how you should spend your money, and this won’t apply to everyone. I am going to talk about when God allows you to go through a season of financial difficulties, and how to keep your head up and trust that God will not leave you in that place. When I say financial difficulties, I mean anyone who is having troubles because of money: rich or poor, because as you have heard more money equals more problems.

            I am well qualified to talk about this subject because God has sent me through a season of financial lack. I also have a best friend who has been through a season of plenty so I know both sides of the spectrum. For those of you going through either of these sides, you will well relate, but for those of you that are not, I would recommend taking notes for the future.

The first on the list of topics is the question, “Why?” Why does God allow us to go through these seasons? From my experience, I can tell you that even though it may be the roughest season you may ever have to go through, it will be the most rewarding. When you really get to know God, you will realize that what you thought was an attack from Satan was really preparation from God. If He is sending you through a season of lack, then know that He is training you for a season of plenty and vise versa. God has to be able to trust you before He can put you into certain places in life.

            Why then is it so difficult to trust God during a season of lack? I believe it is because at least for us men we allow finances to define part of our identity. The money, the cars, and the clothes, and when all of that is gone, some of us have to do an identity check because we are confused about who we are. During all of those years when we were financially stable, we didn’t need to rely on God to help pay our bills, or help us meet the right people, or get the right jobs. Our money did all of those things for us.

So, you see whenever God takes something (or someone) away from you that you are dependent upon it is because He wants you to learn to become more dependent on Him alone. So don’t become emotional (angry, jealous, & shameful) when God takes anything away from you because He is giving you the opportunity to live your life for Him and his glory.

“Temptation is always knocking, but opportunity knocks once.”

         When you hear people talking about how you once had it all and no longer have anything, understand in your heart that you have everything because you are allowing God to take you places they could never go. He has chosen you to take this path because He knows you are the only one who can make it! And, you will. So, when people talk, you just keep walking with your head held high.

             I once asked myself how I could have confidence as a man when I was broke, and the answer was I couldn’t. I did not have confidence in myself and that was the point! However, I could have confidence in God, and in what and where He was taking my life. I could hold my head high with the knowledge that I was in a place not many people could be because they would never give up what I had given up. Have confidence in the fact that you will do anything for God and that you have a willingness to obey Him whatever the cost. For it is in the willingness that you will find your promise land.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

The Total Man: Emotions (Pt.2)

The Distractions of Emotions (Pt.2)
Man's Emotions... "He-Motions"

Envy/Jealousy: These twin distractions causes you to forget that life is unique, and your life is not meant to be a copy of someone else’s. Your life is special and authentic. God created a life special and “made to order” for all of us, and He has designed a life driven by a unique purpose for everyone.  Your life is as different, unique, and as original as your fingerprints.  These fatal distractions are the stumbling block of all stumbling blocks when you find yourself envious and jealous of someone else.  This goes against the very essence of who God made you to be. 

When you are jealous and envious of someone, it is the equivalent of saying, “God, who I am and what I have is nothing and it is not good enough.”  You must be careful not to covet what you think someone else has that is above you.  It is only until you learn how they acquired it and what it takes to maintain it that you will conclude, “Maybe I don’t want what they have after all.”  Envy and Jealousy actually take away from you; rather than imparting anything into you; they leave you empty inside. 

“But as for me, my feet had almost stumbled; my steps had nearly slipped...For I was envious of the boastful, When I saw the prosperity of the wicked” (Psalm 73:2-3).

Fear & Doubt: Fear is not real!  It is an emotional illusion about a certain situation.  Just because the future or the next step is unknown to you, it is not unknown to God.  If God knows it, then that is enough.  “Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands…For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:6-7).  You must realize that fear is a spirit that is not of God.  This scripture admonishes you to stir up the gifts within so that they can combat the spirit of fear.  Your gift came before your fear!  It is only when you are walking in the things of God of what you should be and in your gifts that fear rears its ugly head in order to try to divert you. 

Once fear tries to invade you, you must tap back into the Spirit in which God has bestowed upon you.  Power, Love, and a Sound Mind is what God has given you.  Power-“God is my strength and power, And He makes my way perfect” (2 Samuel 22:33).  “For the Kingdom of God is not in word, but in power” (1 Corinthians 4:20).  Love is the essence of Who God is. 8“He who does not love does not know God, for God is love… 18If love is to have its perfect work, then fear must die! “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out all fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love” (1 John 4:8, 18).       A Sound Mind-“The peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).

Rejection: This is the ultimate fatal distraction.  This distraction makes you feel put out and disowned.  The spirit of rejection is to cast out or eject, to discard as defective or useless.  It is the sense of being denied, having no access, and being hindered.  Sometimes, you have to be thankful for some people, places, and groups who put you out. 

The best thing you can do for some people is to send them a thank-you card for putting you out.  If you had stayed with them, then you would have died.  They were killing you softly with their words.  It was all lies. The spirit of rejection makes you think that no one will ever accept you, and that is a lie.

Rejection can actually shift you into your rightful position.  If you are rejected from something, then you are ejected in order to land somewhere else!  God has been trying to get you somewhere else, but you could not let go of where you were, so you had to be rejected in order to be projected into the right place. “He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief” (Isaiah 53:3).  Jesus’ rejection sent Him to the Cross; it helped Him get to his destiny, but it was painful.  Let’s deal with the pain of rejection, which is a fatal distraction because it causes you to listen to your pain rather than your purpose. 

Your purpose has to speak louder than your pain.  The Bible says that rejection is acquainted with grief and sorrow.  You need time (the process) to heal over being hurt, but do not stay there too long, because once you wipe away your tears, you will see that God has already prepared a new place for you.  Get the right perspective of rejection, “I am being rejected in order to be Projected into Destiny!”

Shame & Guilt: These two distractions bring about feelings of pain, disappointment, humiliation, and regret. They can cause a feeling of being ostracized from others and especially from God.  These distractions are tricks of the enemy to make you feel that what you have done has defined you for life and that you will not be able to change.  Shame and Guilt leave you with a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness. These emotions take you away from the redemptive grace of Christ.  When there is an overwhelming feeling of condemnation in your life, recognize that as the devil.  The Holy Spirit does not condemn, but convicts us in order to bring us back to Christ.  However, the devil tries to use guilt and shame to condemn you so that you will give up on life.

Manhood Assignment: Go through all the list of the emotions from yesterday and today, and see which ones you need to work on. You might have to get an accountability partner to help you work through the emotions. Define how they (bad emotions) started and make a plan of action of how you are going to deal with it.

Saturday, June 22, 2013

The Total Man: Emotions Pt.1

The Distractions of Emotions
Man's Emotions... "He-Motions"

The enemy uses your emotions to distract you through everyday circumstances. What you feel about a situation can cause it to appear distorted, thereby causing you to be deceived and end up in a Diversion all because of your emotions, or feelings.  Let’s deal with Emotions.  Emotions are great when kept in check.  The devil works through your emotions in these areas:

Lustful desires: These are uncontrolled, passionate, or overpowering desires or cravings.  Lust is an overwhelming yearning for something. There is no benefit to lusting.  Distractions have no benefits that help or aid you in any way; they simply hinder you and your advancement.  Your lustful desires are coming from your flesh, not your spirit.  “Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts” (Romans 13:14).  If you make no provision for your flesh and lustful desires, then you will walk in righteousness.  The lust of your flesh is what you want, not what God wants.

Loneliness: Loneliness stems from a lack of companions and it involves seclusion.  You must learn how to deal with disappointment, especially when it comes from others when their actions causes you to feel ostracized and rejected.  The alone time in your life could be God-ordained in order for Him to speak to you and reveal your destiny to you.  The most important objective in a season of loneliness is to avoid falling into depression. You have to have the right perspective in this season.  First, there is purpose behind being alone.  It is during this time that you develop the most. You should use the lonely time to focus on God because He wants to speak to you about you. 

It is only when everyone else is out of the picture that you are able to hear God clearly.  Secondly, you learn who you really are when no one else is around. This produces integrity and develops your true character.  Loneliness causes you to come to terms with yourself. Finally, realize that you are never actually alone because God is always there, and He will never leave you nor forsake you.  You may be lonely, but you are not deprived.

“Loneliness is not the absence of people, but the absence of Purpose”

Brokenness/Wounds: Unfortunately, heartbreak is a part of life for everyone.  It can come in the form of a broken relationship, a failed promise, or an unrealistic expectation of someone or something.  Nevertheless, if you do not deal with your brokenness and let God heal it, it can lead to a fatal distraction.  Brokenness can cause you to give up. It makes you feel like what you see right now is all that there will ever be. You are in a fragile and vulnerable state of attack from the enemy.  A broken heart is very similar to a broken mirror.  The mirror still gives a reflection, but it is a distorted one, and the image is not clear. 

When you begin to live or view your life through brokenness, you have a distorted image of yourself, God, and your future.  Just like with a broken mirror, you have to be careful when you handle it or you may be seriously injured.  The only person that can handle your brokenness, and mend you back together as if it never happened, is God.  He is not worried about being injured or affected by your brokenness because His word, glory, and love are the antidote for it!

“The Potter Wants to Put You Back Together Again!”

“The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit” (Psalm 34:18).

“He heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).

“Then I went down to the potter’s house, and there he was, making something at the wheel. 4And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter; so he made it again into another vessel, as it seemed good to the potter to make” (Jeremiah 18:3-4).

I want you to know that because you are concerned and frustrated over your brokenness, God, too, has it at the forefront of His mind.  He has you in His hand and He is molding and shaping you into everything that you are destined to be.

Anger: Anger is a distraction that gives no resolution to going forward.  Anger is permissible according to the Word of God, but the sin that anger can cause is not.  To say that you have never acted in anger is to deceive yourself.  How you handle your anger determines whether it will become a fatal distraction in your life.  Anger blinds you; if you allow it to grow unchecked in your life, it can send you into an uncontrollable rage. Anger takes up valuable space in your life!  Despite the circumstance or situation, you have to maintain your composure and act in accordance with the character of Christ.  Wisdom can come forth during an angry moment, if you allow yourself time to assess the situation.      

“A quick-tempered man acts foolishly… He who is slow to wrath has great understanding” (Proverbs 14:17, 29).

“Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still.  Selah” 
(Psalm 4:4).

“Do not let your mouth cause your flesh to sin” (Ecclesiastes 5:6).
Be angry, and do not sin:  do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil” (Ephesians 4:26-27).